So, as one more season of my existence comes to a shut and the disappointment and disaster of these misplaced targets and hopes seem to ease I sign… AWWWW HELL! LIFE IS STILL GOOD!
I know you idea this used to be going to be one more indubitably this type of, whoa is me, my husband left, I assemble now not have any children, and I’m over 50, unhappy stories. But or now not it is now not! Sure, I used to be devastated when my husband told me he fundamental a divorce. Sure, I believed I’d never win thru the unhappy, nauseous feeling of what dwell I dwell now that I’m now not going to have that “Happily ever after” marriage each younger lady targets of. And yes, I’m bored to death in seeing that unhappy look on of us’s face whenever you repeat them “Effectively I slump thru my 2nd divorce and no I assemble now not have any children”. But the cloud is lifting and the nausea goes away and I’m in a brand unique season. You stare I belong to a secret society of females. We are the over 50, No husband, no children, I finally have my have money, home, industry and I’m at ease and I silent look rattling upright, SOCIETY! There may be now not many of us accessible and or now not it is hard to win in (genuinely or now not it is tougher than pledging a sorority! ) But we dwell exist and each few years a brand unique member steps up and speaks out to let diversified females be taught about the benefits of being indubitably one of “US”. So I finally have slipped on my Manolo’s, had a mani/pedi and dubbed myself this twelve months’s declare for the “SOCIETY.”
OK. Jokes apart. This has now not been a upright few years for me. But in the complete turmoil and a variety of losses (which I’d now not point out because here’s a feel upright portion) I finally have come out on the diversified facet stronger, higher and more centered than ever. I finally have stumbled on the importance of God, the universe, friends, household and pets. Now please assemble now not win me disagreeable. My contemporary smash up and divorce has now not made me bitter. I silent LOOOOVVVE MEN! There’s nothing sexier than a confident, scent upright gentleman who’s now not taking a look for a mom resolve or a 20 twelve months weird and wonderful hottie. And thus… the place off of this portion.
We usually win caught up in the detrimental parts of a smash up. We feel the very proper pain of losing any individual we admire and idea we have been going to exhaust the remaining of our lives with. Caring for them and being regarded after. The “Or now not it is you and me in opposition to the World” feeling. When a smash up or altering of the season comes (and you may presumably well presumably successfully be now not the one searching for to slump away) it can presumably well presumably finally feel esteem a death. We handiest stare what now we have misplaced. But now that most of my disaster has subsided, and being the staunch romantic that I’m, I sign there may be of enterprise to ride a complete unique world of “FIRSTS”! A first look. A first date. A first kiss. A first… need I recount more?
Now, Sure, I be taught Mr. Harvey’s amazing e book “Act esteem a Girl, Ponder esteem a Man” and while I learned a couple of upright pointers of how males collect there used to be silent some missing ideas for me as a newly single, grown lady over 50! I’m now not taking a look for a father for my formative years, I assemble now not have runt one daddy drama and I know that if I come to a choice I slump to allotment “the Cookie” the field may presumably well now not dwell spinning whenever you assemble now not name me the next day. Hell, I MIGHT NOT CALL YOU! In case you can successfully be a father I know your kids come first and whenever you would have gotten runt one mama drama… that’s between the 2 of you. I dwell thank Mr. Harvey for reminding me that I assemble now not favor to be in administration the complete time and I dwell favor to be handled esteem a Girl (that’s how I used to be raised). But as a spokesperson for the “SOCIETY” I fundamental to let the complete women over 50, got my have money, condominium, industry, no husband or formative years, know that… Or now not it is OK.
No longer many of us, males and/or females over 50 (nearly 60) win of enterprise to ride the excitement of the “Firsts” again. I’m talking about the specific “Firsts” now not staunch the “for tonight” firsts. I’m talking about the belly flutter, coronary heart pounding, when will I stare you again, ooooo lady there he’s… FIRST! The, I will silent scent his cologne, is he taking a look at me, I will now not even look at him no more, FIRST! The wow I did now not know that used to be silent in working screech, FIRST! THE I CAN’T BELIEVE I REMEMBERED HOW TO DO THAT, FIRST! (sorry I got carried away)
Anyhoo, I’m here as a reminder that there could be a delicate-weight on the diversified facet. If nothing else, the even handed feeling that sensation again also can silent support to win you to the diversified facet. We in the “SOCIETY” are proud and tough and ready for the FIRSTS!… AGAIN!
Let Bound and Let God!
Member of “THE SOCIETY”